There's kind of a difference between being gentle with yourself and being passive about everything? Like, I am gentle with myself in that I have specific time limits each day for engaging with depressing content that I can do very little about. I still engage with it enough to learn new things, but I don't uselessly grind my brains to mush on facebook's algorithm. Maybe we need more exact language, but it is hard to give advice that is both specific enough to be helpful and not so specific as to be patronizing. Navigating unspoken boundaries: it is the hard.